6 WEEKS
Somehow the announcement of six weeks to go has prompted a new type of anxiety to experience together on this road to marriage.
One large enough to elicit a post from me, Laura.
I have been reflecting, Devin and I have been chewing on this wedding concept and here are some thoughts:
Weddings grow into an entity of their own, millions of details, things to plan, coordinate and control so that every thing goes EXACTLY RIGHT.
Such a stark contrast to what being in an actual relationship is like.
Being in a relationship means relinquishing your control. Dying, truly dying to yourself, so that you can care for the needs of someone else above your own.
Therefore choosing to be married means choosing a fate of no control “as long as you both shall live.” This enough to scare white off rice, so why then is that people long for this to relationship, or choose it?
This morning I am sure that it is because the posture you take when you submit your control allows for a type of love that is unequalled in this world.
Love that is more powerful than disagreements, grievances, mistakes and wrongs. Love that accepts, encourages and instructs points us towards our new selves. Love that get us out of the bed in the morning.Love that is imaginative and new. Love that is loyal and old.
So with 6 weeks to go, I am remembering 5 years of love, that has brought us to this point. Hoping that as we grow into better people we get even better at not having control.
